Indecency is OK for Today's Modern Family?

As I was glancing through the Yahoo home page a couple weeks ago I noticed a story about Modern Family in the feature graphics. The controversial episode was featuring the toddler dropping the f-bomb. I clicked to read more and while I found the story line a little bit funny, as it has been know that a toddler to uttere a swear word as they learn the English language although they are corrected and told not to use those words. I read down to the bottom of the article to learn that the broadcast television indecency law is before the Supreme Court to repeal it.

I am outraged over this and I do not wish to deregulate broadcast television so that networks can have free reign on profanity and nudity. There's a huge difference between monitoring what your children are watching and having choices that are appropriate, and not being able to watch television anymore because any show on the air can contain nudity and profanity. Even during late night hours, I do not wish to turn on dramas, comedy, talk shows, or skit shows and hear profanity and see nudity. We don't swear or walk around naked in my house and I don't want to see it or hear it on TV.

This opens the floodgates for advertisers as well. When I think commercials already go to far and sexually oriented products, like ED medications, lubes and lingerie, are advertised during family shows, I can only imagine what we will see when there are no restrictions.

Regulations are in place for a reason. We are an educated, civilized society and should continue to maintain high moral standards. Both children and adults should have a safe haven for television viewing and not be forced to endure profanity and nudity.

Since when does "quality" mean swearing and nudity?

Jan

BTW, the toddler on the Modern Family episode actually said fudge.

Got credit card debt? Three years to debt free...

With the new year, we have a renewed opportunity to get our lives back on track. Including credit card debt. I came across this article on how to reduce credit card debt in three years.

An explanation of how to pay is included and is easy enough to figure out. It is included on your credit card statement. There are two sections that explain how long it will take to pay off your credit card debt, one by paying the minimum payment which will take 30 or more years to pay off. The other shows the payment needed to payoff the debt in three years time.

If you can't afford to pay the 3 year amount due, at least due the best you can to pay more than the minimum.

Jan

Make a Change in 2012

2012 is quickly approaching. People start thinking about making resolutions. I think it's best to make a list of goals for teh year. Include small goals that are attainable and some larger goals that will take some work to get. I talked to a girl at work who, gasp, does not recycle. Anything! In this day and age I find it hard to believe that everyone is not at the very least recycling cans and newspapers. I told her to start by just recylcling one can or bottle a week. She will be contributing and learning the habit of recycling and seeing just how easy it actually is. And this will make an impact on the environment.

Same goes for saving money, paying down debt, dieting, working out, becoming more social, starting a hobby, whatever it is. Start small. Making a small committment gets you started. Then you can expand down the road.

If you don't work out, start with a 15 minute walk twice a week.
If you want to eat healthier, substitute one bag of chips for an apple and trade one can of soda for water each week. Then increase to twice a week.
Make it easy and attainable so you will actually succeed.

Then add a couple bigger goals. It's good to challenge yourself. If you don't commit to something every year to challenge yourself, you will never grow as a person or do great things. This could include travel, learning a new language or picking up an instrument, skiing or playing tennis.

Have a happy new year!

Jan

It's Not What She Says---It's How She Looks

After seeing the movie Miss Representation, I have become even more aware of the derogatory comments made about women on T.V., movies and in the media.  If you watch even an half hour of T.V. in a night you can count a dozen or more comments that we make about women that we don't make about men.  Comments about what she was wearing, if she looked heavy or not, if she is attractive or not, if she looks young or not, if her hair-do is appropriate or not, if she is dressed well or not, if her body is toned or not, if her rear end is big or not!  It is ridiculous what we put women through.  We pick them apart and then we wonder why young girls are so insecure!

I turned on "The View" for 10 minutes and within that ten minutes Whoopi Goldberg and several others commented on Michelle Bachmann.  The only thing they had to say about her was she is attractive and looked good on her interview on the "late late show".  They also said she wasn't going to win the election but not one of them commented on her political views.  Do they even know what they are?  Isn't that the reason we have elections?

It is time that the media changes and women are not so sexualized and there is more respect.  Even women can't stop commmenting on what other women wear, and what they look like. Enough is enough it is time for a change! Gossip shows, gossip magazines, mean cruel comments about women it has got to stop!! It hurts all of us every time we say a mean cruel comment, buy a gossip magazine, watch a gossip show we are hurting ourselves in the long run.  Just remember that someone will be gossiping about you too.  Do you like it? Let's stop putting each other down and start supporting each other, we will all go alot further if we help each other instead of bring each other down.

Steph

This Holiday Season, Buy USA

When you are out shopping this holiday season, check labels and buy American. The best way to improve our economy is to buy American-made products. Let's support American workers, American companies and buy American-made products. We're spending our money, let's invest it in ourselves.

I went to Carters today which I always assumed was American-made and was shocked to see the clothing was made in Indonesia, China and Cambodia. I left the store without buying anything.

Remember to also support the mom and pop shops.

Keep America strong and buy USA.

Jan

Shirtless Vampires Turn Men off Twilight

I heard a conversation about the movie Twilight and this man saying that this movie has killed the movie genre for all vampire movies. One of his grievances was the fact that they men are shirtless throughout most of the movie and how they seem to rip their shirts off for no apparement reason. I have to laugh because now he knows how women feel about being forced to see women shirtless and even completely nude in almost every movie made that is rated PG13 and R and above. Proving that nudity or partial nudity is not needed and if it's not appropriate for men, then it should be appropriate for women to take their shirts off. And quite frankly, it is more inappropriate for a woman to take her shirt off then for a guy to take his shirt off. How about we let the movie industry know that we should keep the shirts on, for the men and the women.

Finally the shoe is on the other foot and men see how it feels to have to watch hot guys taking their shirts off and they don't like it. Well women don't like seeing hot women taking their shirts off either.

Sign up for Miss Represenation and see how you can have a voice and make a positive change for the representation in the movies.

Jan

"Excused"--Excuse Me, But I am Disgusted!

I just saw about 10 minutes maybe less of a show on T.V. called "Excused", I was so disgusted I had to turn it.  The show was about two guys that sit in a room with an announcer (a girl) and then outside the building a bunch of girls, seperately ring the doorbell. The guys get a preview of what she looks like through a surveilance camera and then they decide if she can come up to their room.

The girls try to say witty (usually with sexual innuendos) things to try and get these guys to let them in. Then the guys tell the announcer what they think of the girl and the announcer has to let the girl know if she was rejected or excepted and why.

It was so pathetic, these girls flaunted themselves and basically implied that if the guys let them up they would get a piece. It  was so sad to me, to see that girls would demean themselves like this.  The guys were basically critizing her on how she looks and what she said.  The girls that they found unattractive were rejected.  The guys said things like "I wish she had a better looking face, she's ugly!" 

Basically, the guys were checking out these girls like pieces of meat and rating their face, body and how sexual she acted.  What happened to society? Why do we treat humans like commodities! Why are women not respecting themselves. These girls reminded me of street corner hookers that were trying to earn some money by turning a trick.  Is this how girls want to be treated? Like meat?  I think it's time to get back some good old fashioned values!  Girls you should let the guy treat you right by taking you out, getting to know you, and speaking to you, and about you, with RESPECT!!!!  I hope there are some women out there who agree that it is important to gain a man's respect, if you want to be treated well by him.  How can a man respect you if your are acting desperate and needy.  If you are offering and flaunting yourself and begging him to accept you!  This society needs to change, women need to demand respect by respecting themselves.  Women need to stop settling for less than what they want just to have a man.  If women would stop putting up with men's bad behavior men would change.  They would know that they aren't getting anything from a women unless he treats her with respect.

It makes me sad when I see women being cheated on, disrespected, mistreated and lied to, and they still put up with it because they don't want to be alone.  If all women wouldn't put up with the "bad boy" behavior men would change.  It is time that women start getting more respect from men!

Of course, this show called "Excused" is the media once again making women look like sexual objects with not much to offer but sex.  Why are so many women agreeing to do these things that degrade themselves and make it harder for all women to get any respect!

Steph

Boycott Abercrombie and Fitch

This holiday season send a message to Abercrombie and Fitch that you don't support their chioces in girls fashions. As I pointed out in a previous blog, they released a bikini line that included padded bikini tops for 8 year olds. They have also in the past introduced thong underwear for 8 year olds. Clothing retailers and designers should not be creating clothing for young girls that make them appear older and sexier. Not only it exploits girls and opens them up to sexual preditors, but it also starts shaping their minds and creates a bad sense of body image.

This sends the wrong message to girls. This sends the message that a girl should be worried about her figure and tells her how she should look to be attractive. This sends the message that her natural body is not good enough and she needs enhancements to lood good. This is why teenage girls are having plastic surgery. 

Make a stand that this kind of fashion is offensive and dangerous for young girls and should not be considered for a minute much less made available to the public.

Boycott Abercrombie and Fitch and take a stand to protect young girls.

Jan

Not Another Broken Heart

It's official what Jan and I have been talking about for years,  men and women have different emotional make ups and we are fooling ourselves if we think we can play a man's game.  According to the Associate Press today "Women are 7 to 9 times more likely to suffer from "broken heart syndrome"  when sudden or prolonged stress like an emotional break-up or death causes overwhelming heartfailure or heart-attack like symptoms."

So why are so many women that we know play this game that they are emotionallly unattached and don't care about having a loving commited relationship.  They have "friends with benefits" what a bunch of cr...!  What are you doing having sex with a guy that won't even give you a commitment! I know women enjoy sex too but no one likes getting used.  If he cares for you at all he would want a commited relationship with you.

I have known women who have long term relationships with men that are married!  They fool themselves that the guy loves them and is going to leave his wife.  The bottom line is he likes to feed his ego and it makes him feel like a stud if he has two women.  He doesn't care much for his wife or his foolish lover!  It upsets me to see women being so foolish.

Women would rather be treated with love and respect and have a commited relationship. Pretending that casual sex is all you want is just fooling yourself.  Women have needs and one of their needs is to be in a loving commited relationship, we can have multiple partners but what are we looking for when we are looking for sex? Isn't it some kind of acceptance or love? It's not just about getting aroused.

Let's stop neglecting our needs.  It's better to be wanted than had!  Let's start promoting commited relationships and families that's where it's at, not meaningless sex.  It's time we grow up and realize that family is all we have and let's cherish it.  It's time women start gaining their power back and just say "NO,  I will not have sex with you!" not until I respect you and I know you respect me! 

Steph

Males dominate the Media--Bachmann complains

I have been watching the republican debates and can't believe how the candidates that the media like most are asked the most questions and there are a few candidates that are asked hardly any questions.  Bachmann being one of them.  It seems like the media isn't ready for a women president and doesn't seem to be giving Bachmann a fair shot.

CBS political director, John Dickerson accidentally sent an e-mail out that was also recieved by Bachmann stating that he wasn't interested in having her on his show and that "Bachmann was not going to get many questions" in the debate.

I am disappointed how the media is manipulating the interviews and just allowing only the favorites to speak.  I would of liked to have gotten to know her views.  I know that she is interested in alot of womens' issues like helping single moms who have to work hard and have little help with childcare and get little time off at work.  I am not a single mom but I was at one time and I know how hard it can be.  Women have alot of issues that I feel should not be ignored any longer. 

I personally think we are long over due.  It is time for a women president!  I would like to see how a women can make changes.  But I can't vote for a candidate that I only have had a few minutes to hear speak and I am not sure if she is the right one for the job or not!  The media is not giving her a fair shot.  They have their favorites and those are the ones we will be able to vote for.  Things have to change!  I am so sick of this biased media that has always favored men!!!!

Steph

quote: The Seattle Times

Miss Representation Screening - Take the Pledge - Become Empowered

Steph and I went to the screening of Miss Representation. It is a MUST SEE for all women and teenage girls. Visit MissRepresentation.org to learn more, take the pledge to spread the word and see what you can do.

I was a little disappointed that the panel discussion did not follow. I guess it was only for the premiere screening. The two ladies from the YWCA did say a few words and asked for mentors and mentees to sign up for their new mentoring program. I jumped at the chance. I have been running our intern program at work and I feel like starting a mentoring program is a good next step. I was surprised only two other women signed up out of a very crowded room. I also excited and flattered that they asked for my help and input since I have some experience running the intern program and this is a new program that they are launching. This is the kind of thing I have been wanting to do.

Steph and I had gone to the Boys and Girls Club a couple years ago to volunteer but things didn't pan out then. Recently I wanted to start a new program to speak to young girls and encourage young girls to strive for more. So this seems like the ideal opportunity to start getting involved in the community and helping young girls to become empowered.

It was a very inspiring movie. It was good to feel validated and justified in being opposed to the exploitation of women in the media. We have always felt like we were the oddballs in being offended but now we know we were not and that women are demoralized, demeaned and disrespected.

Now we are even more empowered to speak our minds in our blog and tell it as we see it and not be afraid to speak out.
Jan

Miss Representation

Steph and I will be attending a screening of Miss Representation at our local library. I heard of this movie through OWN and saw about the first 20 minutes of it. The topic of how women are portrayed in the media is something that we have discussed for years. Actually since college. We have noticed how much worse it is now more then ever and how every year it seems to continue getting worse with more and more exploitation of women. The fact is Hollywood is predominently run by men so naturally sexualizing women on screen is common. Women are shown with less and less clothing and often none at all when there is no need for it except to attract the male viewer.

We are excited to see this movie because honestly we thought all these years we were alone in our views. It seems no one else seems to be bothered by the portrayal of women in the media and we feel like we were the abnormal prudes that find it offensive, disgraceful, embarassing and unneccessary. Honestly I am embarassed for the girls that star in Hollywood that show it all and conduct adult relations on screen and don't know how they can feel comfortable having friends and family and the rest of the World seeing all their Worldly goods. A local celebrity, Chloe Savigny, had a very explicit scene in an independent movie and I always wondered how she could face her parents. This is a very conservative, affluent town and although she defends this graphic scene by the fact that she had dated the actor/director prior to the movie so it was easy for her to do, but what about the fact that it is now on film forever and her family, friends, and someday children and their friends may see this.
We will report back on the screening and recommend watching "Miss Representation". You may still be able to catch it on OWN or look for or request a local screening at your library or theater.

Jan

Mini-Workout---Used by Audrina Patridge, Reality Star.

Today is the start of another stressful week.  I have stress at work and my sister and I have had a recent falling out, hopefully things will work out but right now I just can't deal with any more negativity!  One thing that helped me overcome my stress was a quick workout.  Just four moves from Jarett DelBene, who's client's include Lauren Conrad and Audrina Patridge.

It is quick and intense.  Jarett suggests doing it two or three times a week. First shadow box or jump rope for 3 minutes.  Then do 20 reps of each of the following moves:

1. "Cat Raise"  Get in plank position with elbows and forearms on mat. Then pull in adominals and lift your hips up into a cat like position and then hold for 2 counts and return to plank position and repeat. Great for a stronger core.  Also, works shoulders and chest.

2."Cross-Legged Lift"  Lie faceup with legs extended over hips. Bend right knee, crossing right foot over left thigh.  Keeping left leg straight.  Slowly take legs down to 45 degrees or even lower if you can. Repeat and switch legs. Great for abs.

3. "Compound Crunch" lie faceup with hands behind head" Bring head and knees into a curl, elbows touching knees.  Slowly extend legs and upper body back down and repeat. Great for abdominals.

4. "Offset Bridge" lie faceup with right knee bent, right foot on the ground and then bring left leg up in the air.  Lift your hips up into bridge position with left leg up and pulse.  Repeat and then switch legs. Great for abs, legs and butt.

This mini-workout helps relieve stress and helps you to achieve that toned body you always wanted!

Steph

Source: Shape Magazine

CBS and Janet Jackson Win Fight over Wardrobe Malfunction. Can We Expect More Lude, Crude Behavior?

CBS triumphed over the "wardrobe malfunction" incident where Justin Timerberlake tore off a piece of Janet Jackson's dress during the Superbowl halftime show. I am offended that CBS and Janet Jackson are not being penalized for this obvious, intentional incedent that created a huge publicity hype for Janet Jackson. It tells other performers that pushing the envelope and conducting themselves inapporpriately is worth doing since it gets them massive media coverage and they bear no consequence, no penalties or fines for their behavior. Each time an inappropriate act or lude behavior is found acceptable it diminishes the ever so small line of what is now considered unacceptible until eventually people start to view it as acceptable. Until someone else attempts to push the envelope again and thus we continue to become unsensitized to rude, crude, and lude behavior.

I was probably more liberal before I had children, although I was always uncomfortable with sex and sexualization of women in the media, but now the relaxed laws and excessive sexual images and the acceptance of such things concerns me for my children and the kind of World they will grow up in.

So rather then then making a statement by upholding a fine for this, in my view, non-accidental warbdrobe malfunction so that others don't try to copycat, to be sure that networks take action to ensure this type of incident does not happen again and to show the artists that this will not be tolerated, it shows them that it's all well and good to go ahead and do something crazy because there will be no consequence.

I don't believe that a family event should be the place for artists to be able to do whatever they want and they should be responsible to their audience and children.

So now I wonder what's next and hope that at some point someone will take responsibility. I guess we can expect more lude, crude behavior ahead.

Jan

Clothing--Seductive Vs. Conservative

I was shopping in the mall the other day with my 11 year old daughter and suprisingly enough (ha..ha..)there was another girl about her age wearing close to nothing!  I usually in this day and age hardly even notice that some girl is walking by us half naked but this girl was wearing shorts that were not much bigger than the width of a band-aid and a shirt that came up so high that it barely covered her chest!  She was also using crutches because she had a broken leg. She was getting quite alot of stares.  I couldn't believe that her mother would let her leave the house looking like that.  I told my daughter, "You will never be able to wear an outfit like that!"  She laughed.  Luckily, my daughter is not only beautiful, but she is exceptionally bright and athletic and would never have to be half naked to finally get noticed!

To my suprise a man over heard me speaking of this scantily clothed girl and  agreed with me!  He said "I would never let my daughter leave the house wearing that!  I am so proud of my daughter, she is attending Boston University and doing well!" It was so refreshing to hear a man was offended to see a girl half naked in a mall.  It is so great to see that there is still men out there that agree that women should respect themselves more than that, and keep their clothes on!

I have to admit that I am liberated, I am not a women who wears turtle necks and long sweat pants to hide myself.  I like to dress up in fashionable clothes and look attractive and feminine but with class and tact.  I love clothes, jewelry, high heels, makeup and all that girly stuff.  I usually have to give my daughter fashion advice because I know the lastest styles better than her. She always asks me how I am so good at putting fashions together and making everything flow together so nicely. I want her to be in style, and fit in, but I still refuse to let her wear some of the clothes that the girls wear that are quite revealing and seem too mature and sexy for an 11year old girl.  I want her to always dress with class and there is no need to display yourself like a piece of meat.

Truly sexy and beautiful women can get away with wearing an ordinary pair of jeans and a sweater and their sex appeal can still shine through.  So to all the single women out there, keep your clothes on, it might be harder to get the attention that your longing for, but when you do you might find that "diamond in the rough" a nice guy that loves your soul.

Steph

last quote: Nickelback song

Fashion for Girls - Too Sophisticated for 6

I went to Kohls today to buy some clothes for my 6 year old daughter. I like to buy a size up for shirts and sweatshirts and that meant that I got bumped out of the toddler and little girl section to the big girl section. I was startled at this realization that we've just entered into the big girl section. I had a lot of mixed emotions. I was sad and missed my little girl with cute, little girl clothes. Lady bugs, flowers and butterflies.

As I entered into the bigger girl section I was faced with a lot more sophisticated fashions and I have to tell you, I am compeletly not ready for that. I walked around and found nothing that I wanted to see my daughter wearing. I did pick up a couple sweatshirts. But the dresses and shirts and skirts were a little tough to absorb. I went back to the girls section to buy a size 6x dress. I like her at 6 being dressed in cute, girly clothes. Even the formal wear and party dresses are cute. The bigger kid clothes are much more refined and too sophisticated.

I think the "tween" years should scale back on the sophisticated clothing and remember that these are young girls. Let's keep them looking young and innocent and not dress them to look older. Let them enjoy being a girl and not worry so much about being fahionable. My daughter loves dressing up and being fashionable but I don't want that turning into sexy outfits or her being worried about being in fashion. What really worries me is that she probably would be attracted to these clothes. But I feel like it's my job as a parent to be sure she does not wear anything too grown up. When kids get older it's natural to want to be in fashion, but in elementary school, who cares and why should they? Elementary school is about having fun not being worried about looking good and impressing others, especially boys. We as parents should not buy our 6 and 7 year old daughters clothes that make them look older. I want to keep my little girl a little girl.

Jan

"Inside Job"-- Matt Damon

I can't sleep after seeing the documentary "Inside Job", by Charles H. Ferguson and narrated by Matt Damon, on the downfall of our global economy! It sickens me that the downfall of our economy has been caused by greedy, immoral and selfish men that have no regard for anyone except themselves!

Before you ever discuss the economy or how Wall Street and Washington are run, I suggest that you watch this movie. It scares me that these men that are in power are so corrupt. There is not an ounce of moral fiber in their body.

The movie is based on facts and most of  these men refused to be interviewed. We all know that politicians are dishonest and just say what they believe will buy them enough votes to get into office and do not follow through on half of what they promised, in this movie you will get a more clearer picture of how things in this world really run and understand why we are in a recession.

Basically the movie depicts how the men on wall street and Washington took advantage of the American public and continued to make money off of people defaulting on their mortgage in fact they wanted people to default on their loans so they could make more money. It is time that the American people take a stand. The men involved should be punished. Nobody is doing anything about it.

It will be a long time before we get back on track and we might never if we don't  make changes on who is running this country, the powerful men in Wall Street and public office. Abe Lincoln must be turning over in his grave to see the kind of men that run this country today. The bottom line is that this country is lacking moral fiber. The lack of morals that I see in today's society is what's going to be our downfall. It is time that men start taking accountability for what they do. As Christie Brinkley said to Ladies Home Journal about today's society "It's an epidemic of male narcissism gone wild!"

Steph

Joining Forces - Supporting Military Families

I was watching Oprah Winfrey on the OWN network and heard about Joining Forces, an initiatieve to support military families started by First Lady Michelle Obama and Jill Biden.

My town has an affordable homes located on property that was once the Fitch Home for Soldiers. It was the first home for soldiers ever in the country and was blessed by President Abraham Lincoln. The homes provided temporary housing for veterans returning from war.

Currently the housing authority wants to redevelop the property and in doing so will pave over the Fitch Home for Soldiers Parade Ground and move the monument to another location on the property.

I am trying to save the Parade Ground, including starting a petition in 2010, and additionally assign 10% of the new units in the redevelopment to veterans as a way to pay homage to the original intent of the property.

I have struggled for the past 5 years to have a voice in this project but the residents and neighbors have been steamrolled by the housing authority and officials in Town who approve of this project due to political pressure and fear of 8-30g, a bill that allows developers higher density in building projects if they include 10% of units as affordable in towns with less then 10% affordable housing. Since this town has less then 10% and an "8-30g preditor" in town, pushing this through even if it is not the best plan for the property, resident and neighbors, will save the NIMBYs in town.

I will continue to fight for a better plan that honors the original intent of the property and preserve its historical heritage and include veterans in the resident make-up.

Please visit Joining Forces to learn more about the initiative and how you can help military families.

If you would like to help in the fight to save the Fitch Home for Soldiers Parade Ground, please sign the petition, visit and like my Facebook page, or send an email to stephandjanblog@gmail.com.

Thanks.
Jan

A success journal is a great bedtime tradition

I just started a new tradition with my two girls. Each night before we go to bed, we sit down together and write one thing that we did today that we are proud of or was successful at or enjoyed. This is a really good way to reinforce and reward good behavior. Even on bad days it is a good way to instill something positive.

I read the Success Principles by Jack Canfield a few years back. I recently picked it up and opened it to the page about starting a success journal and writing every night what you did in the day that was successful.

This comes at a great time because I've been trying to curb bad behavior with my 6 year old and I've been trying to find ways to create more reward for positive behavior and reduce the negative behavior. This has been going really well. I bought each their own journal. Each day gets its own page and my 6 year old wrties her own success and then draws a picture of it. My 3 year old has the same entry everyday. Apparently she's very proud of going outside to play everyday. Let's hope it's a mild winter!

I do recommend this for all parents. I also started my own success journal. It's a nice way to end the day and nice way to go to bed with positive reflection.

Jan

Are you for real?--Wendy Williams

I was watching the Wendy Williams show the other day, which I never watch, and she was talking about Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.  Ashton was spotted in a hot tub with 4 women having a good time and partying and instead of Wendy saying how terrible it was since he is a married man, who should be faithful to his wife, Wendy basically blamed Demi!  She said "come on Demi, let him go, you're all dried up down there and can't give him children, you had your 3 girls.  You should just find yourself some 65 year old European."   What!!!!!!!

Is this society and Wendy trying to say that if your husband sees a chick who is younger than you, or more attractive, you should understand if he cheats??!! Ashton is a married man and should honor his vows!  If he can't respect himself and his wife, there is a thing called divorce!

Demi Moore happens to be a beautiful women. Who cares how old she is? Older men have been dating younger women, forever.  It is about time older women started dating younger men!  I am all for it!  Ashton is not some twenty year old kid, he is a grown man in his 30's!

Older women in this society get no respect!  They are called dried up, prunes, and are basically told by society that they are no longer attractive.  What is so bad about wrinkles? It is a part of life. We are all going to get them!  I guess from what Wendy thinks and society says, if your a woman over 40 you're a "has been" and just step aside and let the young girls take over!

All women have to start demanding a little respect!  Wendy you should not be talking so negatively about a women your own age!  Women need to stick together and  respect each other.  Men stick by each other and that's why it is a man's world.  Women if we stopped trying to keep each other down and supported each other men wouldn't stand a chance. They would have no choice!  They would have to respect us and they wouldn't be able to cheat because we would be smart enough not to mess around with a married guy who just wants to have his fun and use us for a little while!

This society has turned into a man's fantasy!  Men always have had commitment issues and when women wouldn't give it away so freely they were getting more respect.  What is wrong with being married to the same partner for 50 years and raising a family. My grandparents did it and they were a lot happier than couples I meet today that cheat, have multiple partners and don't value marriage.

Steph