Make a Change in 2012

2012 is quickly approaching. People start thinking about making resolutions. I think it's best to make a list of goals for teh year. Include small goals that are attainable and some larger goals that will take some work to get. I talked to a girl at work who, gasp, does not recycle. Anything! In this day and age I find it hard to believe that everyone is not at the very least recycling cans and newspapers. I told her to start by just recylcling one can or bottle a week. She will be contributing and learning the habit of recycling and seeing just how easy it actually is. And this will make an impact on the environment.

Same goes for saving money, paying down debt, dieting, working out, becoming more social, starting a hobby, whatever it is. Start small. Making a small committment gets you started. Then you can expand down the road.

If you don't work out, start with a 15 minute walk twice a week.
If you want to eat healthier, substitute one bag of chips for an apple and trade one can of soda for water each week. Then increase to twice a week.
Make it easy and attainable so you will actually succeed.

Then add a couple bigger goals. It's good to challenge yourself. If you don't commit to something every year to challenge yourself, you will never grow as a person or do great things. This could include travel, learning a new language or picking up an instrument, skiing or playing tennis.

Have a happy new year!

Jan

It's Not What She Says---It's How She Looks

After seeing the movie Miss Representation, I have become even more aware of the derogatory comments made about women on T.V., movies and in the media.  If you watch even an half hour of T.V. in a night you can count a dozen or more comments that we make about women that we don't make about men.  Comments about what she was wearing, if she looked heavy or not, if she is attractive or not, if she looks young or not, if her hair-do is appropriate or not, if she is dressed well or not, if her body is toned or not, if her rear end is big or not!  It is ridiculous what we put women through.  We pick them apart and then we wonder why young girls are so insecure!

I turned on "The View" for 10 minutes and within that ten minutes Whoopi Goldberg and several others commented on Michelle Bachmann.  The only thing they had to say about her was she is attractive and looked good on her interview on the "late late show".  They also said she wasn't going to win the election but not one of them commented on her political views.  Do they even know what they are?  Isn't that the reason we have elections?

It is time that the media changes and women are not so sexualized and there is more respect.  Even women can't stop commmenting on what other women wear, and what they look like. Enough is enough it is time for a change! Gossip shows, gossip magazines, mean cruel comments about women it has got to stop!! It hurts all of us every time we say a mean cruel comment, buy a gossip magazine, watch a gossip show we are hurting ourselves in the long run.  Just remember that someone will be gossiping about you too.  Do you like it? Let's stop putting each other down and start supporting each other, we will all go alot further if we help each other instead of bring each other down.

Steph

This Holiday Season, Buy USA

When you are out shopping this holiday season, check labels and buy American. The best way to improve our economy is to buy American-made products. Let's support American workers, American companies and buy American-made products. We're spending our money, let's invest it in ourselves.

I went to Carters today which I always assumed was American-made and was shocked to see the clothing was made in Indonesia, China and Cambodia. I left the store without buying anything.

Remember to also support the mom and pop shops.

Keep America strong and buy USA.

Jan

Shirtless Vampires Turn Men off Twilight

I heard a conversation about the movie Twilight and this man saying that this movie has killed the movie genre for all vampire movies. One of his grievances was the fact that they men are shirtless throughout most of the movie and how they seem to rip their shirts off for no apparement reason. I have to laugh because now he knows how women feel about being forced to see women shirtless and even completely nude in almost every movie made that is rated PG13 and R and above. Proving that nudity or partial nudity is not needed and if it's not appropriate for men, then it should be appropriate for women to take their shirts off. And quite frankly, it is more inappropriate for a woman to take her shirt off then for a guy to take his shirt off. How about we let the movie industry know that we should keep the shirts on, for the men and the women.

Finally the shoe is on the other foot and men see how it feels to have to watch hot guys taking their shirts off and they don't like it. Well women don't like seeing hot women taking their shirts off either.

Sign up for Miss Represenation and see how you can have a voice and make a positive change for the representation in the movies.

Jan

"Excused"--Excuse Me, But I am Disgusted!

I just saw about 10 minutes maybe less of a show on T.V. called "Excused", I was so disgusted I had to turn it.  The show was about two guys that sit in a room with an announcer (a girl) and then outside the building a bunch of girls, seperately ring the doorbell. The guys get a preview of what she looks like through a surveilance camera and then they decide if she can come up to their room.

The girls try to say witty (usually with sexual innuendos) things to try and get these guys to let them in. Then the guys tell the announcer what they think of the girl and the announcer has to let the girl know if she was rejected or excepted and why.

It was so pathetic, these girls flaunted themselves and basically implied that if the guys let them up they would get a piece. It  was so sad to me, to see that girls would demean themselves like this.  The guys were basically critizing her on how she looks and what she said.  The girls that they found unattractive were rejected.  The guys said things like "I wish she had a better looking face, she's ugly!" 

Basically, the guys were checking out these girls like pieces of meat and rating their face, body and how sexual she acted.  What happened to society? Why do we treat humans like commodities! Why are women not respecting themselves. These girls reminded me of street corner hookers that were trying to earn some money by turning a trick.  Is this how girls want to be treated? Like meat?  I think it's time to get back some good old fashioned values!  Girls you should let the guy treat you right by taking you out, getting to know you, and speaking to you, and about you, with RESPECT!!!!  I hope there are some women out there who agree that it is important to gain a man's respect, if you want to be treated well by him.  How can a man respect you if your are acting desperate and needy.  If you are offering and flaunting yourself and begging him to accept you!  This society needs to change, women need to demand respect by respecting themselves.  Women need to stop settling for less than what they want just to have a man.  If women would stop putting up with men's bad behavior men would change.  They would know that they aren't getting anything from a women unless he treats her with respect.

It makes me sad when I see women being cheated on, disrespected, mistreated and lied to, and they still put up with it because they don't want to be alone.  If all women wouldn't put up with the "bad boy" behavior men would change.  It is time that women start getting more respect from men!

Of course, this show called "Excused" is the media once again making women look like sexual objects with not much to offer but sex.  Why are so many women agreeing to do these things that degrade themselves and make it harder for all women to get any respect!

Steph

Boycott Abercrombie and Fitch

This holiday season send a message to Abercrombie and Fitch that you don't support their chioces in girls fashions. As I pointed out in a previous blog, they released a bikini line that included padded bikini tops for 8 year olds. They have also in the past introduced thong underwear for 8 year olds. Clothing retailers and designers should not be creating clothing for young girls that make them appear older and sexier. Not only it exploits girls and opens them up to sexual preditors, but it also starts shaping their minds and creates a bad sense of body image.

This sends the wrong message to girls. This sends the message that a girl should be worried about her figure and tells her how she should look to be attractive. This sends the message that her natural body is not good enough and she needs enhancements to lood good. This is why teenage girls are having plastic surgery. 

Make a stand that this kind of fashion is offensive and dangerous for young girls and should not be considered for a minute much less made available to the public.

Boycott Abercrombie and Fitch and take a stand to protect young girls.

Jan

Not Another Broken Heart

It's official what Jan and I have been talking about for years,  men and women have different emotional make ups and we are fooling ourselves if we think we can play a man's game.  According to the Associate Press today "Women are 7 to 9 times more likely to suffer from "broken heart syndrome"  when sudden or prolonged stress like an emotional break-up or death causes overwhelming heartfailure or heart-attack like symptoms."

So why are so many women that we know play this game that they are emotionallly unattached and don't care about having a loving commited relationship.  They have "friends with benefits" what a bunch of cr...!  What are you doing having sex with a guy that won't even give you a commitment! I know women enjoy sex too but no one likes getting used.  If he cares for you at all he would want a commited relationship with you.

I have known women who have long term relationships with men that are married!  They fool themselves that the guy loves them and is going to leave his wife.  The bottom line is he likes to feed his ego and it makes him feel like a stud if he has two women.  He doesn't care much for his wife or his foolish lover!  It upsets me to see women being so foolish.

Women would rather be treated with love and respect and have a commited relationship. Pretending that casual sex is all you want is just fooling yourself.  Women have needs and one of their needs is to be in a loving commited relationship, we can have multiple partners but what are we looking for when we are looking for sex? Isn't it some kind of acceptance or love? It's not just about getting aroused.

Let's stop neglecting our needs.  It's better to be wanted than had!  Let's start promoting commited relationships and families that's where it's at, not meaningless sex.  It's time we grow up and realize that family is all we have and let's cherish it.  It's time women start gaining their power back and just say "NO,  I will not have sex with you!" not until I respect you and I know you respect me! 

Steph