Should a Woman Propose? No Way!

Listening to the radio this morning, the morning crew was having a discussion on whether a woman should propose to a man. Apparently a woman had called in and her boyfriend, who had already been engaged before told her that he would not propose to her and she would have to propose to him.

One woman caller said sure, she should do it because she had proposed and it was awesome. Oh yeah, and she's no longer married. So that worked out well.

Another caller, a man, said maybe he wanted the experience to be completely different so he'd be able to remember it and not confuse the two. Seriously??? I don't even think I have to reply that if he can't remember his proposal, he didn't really care. By the way, he could think of something totally original, romantic and special that nothing else could top like a cruise, a beach or hilltop picnic, a winetasting, a bed and breakfast getaway, or really out there like maybe a skydive, or a mountain climb. Did you see that incredibly romantic "movie" proposal? So many ways to make it uniquely your own.

My opinion, tell this guy no way and walk. He's playing games with her. If he REALLY loved her and wanted to be with her, there would be no game going on here and he would be dropping to one knee and proposing. If she tells him flat out no way and walks away from him, either he will come running with a ring, or she's better off moving on now than wasting time with this guy who clearly isn't serious.

Even if he plays along and accepts her proposal, this is setting the precident of her jumping through hoops for him, and when she gets tired of jumping through his hoops, he'll be dumping her.

Women, some traditions are worth keeping. Proposing is your man's way of letting you know that he is ready, that he undeniably wants to spend the rest of his life with you and that he wants to make this special for you. And he should WANT to make this the most special day of your life.

The man plans the proposal. The woman plans the wedding. That's the way it has been and how it should continue to be. Why mess with tradition? 

Jan