Should a Woman Propose? No Way!

Listening to the radio this morning, the morning crew was having a discussion on whether a woman should propose to a man. Apparently a woman had called in and her boyfriend, who had already been engaged before told her that he would not propose to her and she would have to propose to him.

One woman caller said sure, she should do it because she had proposed and it was awesome. Oh yeah, and she's no longer married. So that worked out well.

Another caller, a man, said maybe he wanted the experience to be completely different so he'd be able to remember it and not confuse the two. Seriously??? I don't even think I have to reply that if he can't remember his proposal, he didn't really care. By the way, he could think of something totally original, romantic and special that nothing else could top like a cruise, a beach or hilltop picnic, a winetasting, a bed and breakfast getaway, or really out there like maybe a skydive, or a mountain climb. Did you see that incredibly romantic "movie" proposal? So many ways to make it uniquely your own.

My opinion, tell this guy no way and walk. He's playing games with her. If he REALLY loved her and wanted to be with her, there would be no game going on here and he would be dropping to one knee and proposing. If she tells him flat out no way and walks away from him, either he will come running with a ring, or she's better off moving on now than wasting time with this guy who clearly isn't serious.

Even if he plays along and accepts her proposal, this is setting the precident of her jumping through hoops for him, and when she gets tired of jumping through his hoops, he'll be dumping her.

Women, some traditions are worth keeping. Proposing is your man's way of letting you know that he is ready, that he undeniably wants to spend the rest of his life with you and that he wants to make this special for you. And he should WANT to make this the most special day of your life.

The man plans the proposal. The woman plans the wedding. That's the way it has been and how it should continue to be. Why mess with tradition? 

Jan

A Rare Sighting - A Gentleman Offers Romantic, Sincere & Fun Engagement

These days it's hard to find a true gentleman making a grand gesture to proclaim his love for a girl. But I am happy to report that I just saw a video that has renewed my faith that men can be romantic, sincere, thoughtful, fun, creative and respectful. I hope other young and old men alike find this inspirational and bring back some good old-fashion values, romance and respect.

Watch the video!

I wish my husband thought of it. But I'm the videographer so I'll have to think up a fun and romantic video for our anniversary. And hopefully he can think of something unique, sincere and romantic on his own to make me feel special.

Jan

Spark Up The Romance

My husband and I had the best night together last night! Relationships are hard and seem to get harder as the years go on.  It is important to be creative and try and bring some fun back into the relationship.  We are always trying new ways to bring the spark into the relationship.  We have been together 9 years and have 2 very active children so it's hard to find time for romance.  Last night we put the kids to bed at 8 and then ordered take out, turned out all the lights and lit some candles.  We had time to talk and unwind and sparked up some romance.  We had the best time!  It has been awhile since we gave each other full attention and we found we really enjoy each other and still make each other laugh! 

Need some help in the "us" department. I think we all need a reminder once in a while to do fun things together and enjoy being with each other. It's so easy to forget to spend quality time together when everything else always seems to come first. Work, kids, working out, cleaning, dinner, laundry, bills and the list goes on.

Tips for togetherness. Find ways to have fun at home! Put the kids to bed a little early and bake cookies or brownies together. Then splurge! We also like to get a good book and read to each other, play cards, Wii, board games or just cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie together. Massages are great after a hard day what is better than a neck, head and back massage! Use warm cream to moisturize your skin and you'll feel good and your skin will look good. Of course feel free to get creative with any of these suggestions if you're so inclined. wink wink. But it's really just about connecting, enjoying each others company, and keeping the relationship fun. 

Stop making excuses and nuture your relationship.  Enjoy each other, rekindle the romance.

Steph